Why Are We So Confident in Memories That Are Quietly Wrong?
Why Are We So Confident in Memories That Are Quietly Wrong? How your brain turns fuzzy footage into a high-definition story Framing the Question (and how to use this post) We trust our memories the way we trust a favorite old sweater: a little worn, maybe, but basically reliable. Yet psychology shows that many “crystal clear” memories are partly—sometimes totally—wrong, even as our confidence soars. In this post, we’ll unpack why we feel so sure about memories that quietly drift from reality. We’ll look at how memory actually works (more like Wikipedia than a hard drive), why emotion and repetition boost confidence but not accuracy, and what this means for conversations, leadership, and decision-making. By the end, you’ll understand how to question your own “I’m sure of it” moments without becoming cynical or paranoid. How Memory Actually Works (Spoiler: It’s a Story Engine) We imagine memory as a video archive: hit “play,” and you get a replay of what happened. ...