Why Do We Let the Selfish Rule the World?

Power, Psychology, and the Perks of Looking Out for Number One

Ever watched someone rise to power and thought, “How did they get there?” You’re not alone.
From corporate boardrooms to political podiums, the people who ascend to the top aren’t always the most compassionate—or even the most competent. Often, they’re simply the boldest. This post explores the psychological and systemic reasons we let selfish individuals lead, what it reveals about us, and how we might turn the tide. Keyword: selfish leaders. Let’s examine what our systems reward—and how we can change the rules of the game.

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The Psychology Behind Power and Selfishness

Power doesn’t always corrupt—it often attracts those already drawn to it.

Psychologists talk about the “dark triad”: narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. People with these traits are disproportionately likely to seek leadership, especially in competitive environments. Why? Because power protects them, promotes their interests, and feeds their need for control or admiration.

And ironically, in uncertain times, we often reward those who exude confidence—even if it’s performative. Selfish leaders can appear strong and decisive when the rest of us feel lost or overwhelmed. It’s a psychological sleight of hand: confidence is mistaken for competence.

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Systems Built for Selection, Not Reflection

Selfish leaders don’t thrive because they’re the best—but because our systems often confuse charisma with character.

Democracies reward those who perform well in front of cameras. Capitalist markets reward short-term gains, often at the cost of long-term stability. Even organizational promotions often favor assertiveness over collaboration.

It’s not that we want selfish leaders. But when “winning” is the goal, the traits most useful for winning don’t always include empathy, integrity, or vision. We’ve designed systems that reward survival of the loudest.

Yuval Noah Harari, author of Sapiens, puts it bluntly:

“Humans think in stories rather than in facts, numbers, or equations, and the simpler the story, the better.”
That’s how selfish leaders win—they craft compelling narratives that override complexity and nuance. Our desire for clarity can make us overlook consequences.

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Real World Example: Elizabeth Holmes and the Illusion of Competence

Elizabeth Holmes, the founder of Theranos, is a perfect example of how selfish ambition—when paired with charisma—can deceive even the savviest people in the room.

Holmes promised to revolutionize medicine. Her calm confidence, Steve Jobs-style wardrobe, and relentless charm secured millions in funding. Behind the scenes? A deeply flawed product and a culture of secrecy. She wasn’t just a bad actor—she was a reflection of a system that rewards bold promises over cautious honesty. Investors and media alike helped elevate her, highlighting how charisma often trumps character.

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📌 What You Can Do

Selfishness may rise naturally—but systems and societies choose whether to reward it. Here’s how we push back:

• Vote with values, not just vibes: Ask what someone has actually done, not just what they say.
• Reward collaborative leadership: In workplaces and communities, elevate those who empower others.
• Teach critical discernment: Equip young people to question charisma and spot manipulation.
• Push for incentive reform: Whether in politics or business, demand metrics that measure long-term impact, not just short-term wins.

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Summary

We let selfish people rule not because we admire selfishness—but because we mistake its trappings for strength. Systems reinforce this confusion, and history (and Holmes) show us the cost. But this cycle can be broken. With better questions, better criteria, and better expectations, we can build systems where empathy leads, not lags.
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📚 Bookmarked for You

If this topic intrigues you, these books will stretch your thinking:

The Lucifer Effect by Philip Zimbardo – A haunting deep dive into how ordinary people become agents of power and harm.

Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek – A hopeful blueprint for leading with empathy and trust.

Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari – A sweeping history that shows how storytelling and power have always gone hand in hand.

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🧬QuestionStrings to Practice

QuestionStrings are deliberately ordered sequences of questions in which each answer fuels the next, creating a compounding ladder of insight that drives progressively deeper understanding. What to do now (understand what the system rewards):

🔍 System Reflection String
“What behavior does this system reward?” →

“Who benefits from this structure?” →

“What values are embedded here?”

Use this lens in your organization, classroom, or journal—it will change how you see leadership and fairness.

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When we start to question not just who leads, but why they lead—and what stories we accept—we begin rewriting the script.