Learn to Think in Color

Who Do We Let Define Us and Why? Reclaiming the pen that writes your story Framing the Question For most of us, the answer to  “Who do we let define us and why?”  is: whoever feels safest to please or most dangerous to disappoint. From parents and partners to bosses, peers, and algorithms, we quietly outsource our sense of self to the people and systems we want approval from. This piece explores how that happens, why it’s so psychologically tempting, and what it looks like to start defining yourself on purpose instead of by default. In a world of constant comparison, learning to notice  who  is holding the pen—and choosing differently—is one of the most important skills you can build for a grounded life and sustainable work. The hidden question behind “Who defines me?” Beneath “Who do we let define us and why?” sits a quieter question: Whose opinion feels like the difference between being safe and being rejected? As kids, the answer is obvious: the adults who feed, p...

What Pattern Keeps Repeating Until It’s Understood? How to stop living your own Groundhog Day and finally shift the script   Big Picture Framing When you notice the  same  frustrating situation playing on loop—whether it’s the boss you clash with, the partner who doesn’t listen, or the project you procrastinate on—you’re likely caught in a repeating pattern that will keep showing up until it’s understood. This isn’t fate picking on you; it’s feedback. In this post, we’ll unpack why repeating patterns in life are actually built-in learning systems, how to recognize your personal “Groundhog Day” moments, and how to break the cycle without burning everything down. You’ll walk away with a practical lens for spotting emotional and behavioral patterns and a simple way to respond differently, instead of reliving the same day over and over. The Pattern That Keeps Repeating: Your Unlearned Lesson If you strip away the details, the pattern that keeps repeating until it’s understood...

How Can Embracing Imperfections Transform Your Life and Work? Turning rough edges into your most reliable advantage Framing the Question Embracing imperfections can quietly transform how you live and work by shifting your focus from looking flawless to learning faster. Instead of burning energy hiding your flaws, you start treating them as data, texture, and story. This post unpacks how  embracing imperfections  makes you more creative, more resilient, and easier to trust—at home, at work, and with yourself. Why this matters In a world of highlight reels and polished profiles, perfectionism feels normal but often leads to anxiety, procrastination, and stuck projects. Learning when to aim for precision and when to allow “beautifully imperfect” work—similar to the Japanese idea of  wabi-sabi , which honors the incomplete and the worn—can be the difference between staying frozen and building a life and career that actually moves. What does it really mean to embrace imperfect...